Well this Saturday is the day…. the day I will meet the woman who is responsible for me being on this planet at all! – My birth mum Debbie. 

She’s in town with other members of the family too for a 60th birthday… 

It’s kind of a different situation really tho because I actually have two FULL biological siblings as well! ie. not just half siblings – this is because at the time I was born my birth parents (aged 17 and 20) didn’t think they were going to stay together long term etc so made the decision to give me up.  This turned out not to be the case haha cos they eventually ended up getting married and having another two sprogs! Jamie – 20 yrs and Bianca – 17 yrs. Unfortunately they did end up getting divorced later on apparently, and I haven’t had any contact with my birth father as yet.

I’ve known I was adopted pretty much since I was old enough to know what it meant, but can’t actually remember a specific “day” that I was told tho which is a bit annoying sometimes.  I got a letter from a social worker a few years ago asking me in for a meeting about a ‘personal matter’ so I knew exactly what it was about. I went in and met with this social worker and she basically said that Debbie had made a request to contact me and how did I feel about that.  The way the adoption was set up at the time, back in 1981, was that Debbie had to request contact with me through a social worker – she couldn’t just find out from them where I lived and rock on up etc.  So yeah at the meeting with the social worker I was given a letter written by Debbie which I took and went for a drive to my favourite place overlooking the harbour and read. Not just once but like 30 times. It was quite emotional to be honest and I cried for a bit and then went home and told mum and dad all about it.  Because I had no clue that I had any siblings at all it was quite a shock to find out I had two full biological ones!   I think at that stage I sent Debbie an email to reply and say hello, and we just started corresponding from there.

This meeting’s been a few years in the making – mostly because I’ve been too scared to do it I think.  I had to sort it out in my head first because I don’t think I would ever have tried to look for my birth parents to be honest, because I was happy with my life as it was and didn’t need to find them.  Plus I kinda feel like a meeting is more for Debbie and my Mum and Dad, rather than me, cos it’s an experience that they went through 27 years ago, whereas my life is all I’ve ever known and as far as I’m concerned Mum is my Mum and Dad is my Dad.

But now with heading overseas I think it would be good for me to meet them all and see where I get things from etc like my looks and certain things that I do and stuff.  So the people coming this weekend are:-

• Debbie = mother
• Jamie = brother
• Bianca = sister
• Debbie’s mother = Grandma
• Debbie’s brother = Uncle
• Debbie’s sister = Auntie
• Nick = cousin
• Beki = cousin

Hmmmm so yeah I will nervously await Saturday arvo  – I’ve talked about it with Mum and Dad and they want to meet them all too so I’ve invited them all round for arvo tea.  My brother won’t be down for the weekend, from Blenheim, which is kind of unfortunate cos it would’ve been nice to have the whole family there but twas not to be I guess.